How To Choose What You Want To Do
Sometimes we have a situation when we don't know what to do next. Life is good, and you don't know what achievement do you want in the future. Or life is not so good, and you can't decide how to fix it. How to choose the direction of your actions? What kind of things do you want to happen in your life?
Start with a good exercise. Write down 100 wishes of what you want in your life. It sounds easy, but not so easy on practice. I write this type of list from time to time, and I know that on 35th and/or 60th item, you'll feel that you don't know what else you want. You'll start looking for inspiration to figure out what do you want to complete the whole list.
This exercise is good because when you complete the list, you know what you want. And you can organize your everyday routines to complete at least 30% of things during the year.
100 wishes will learn you to be proactive. You don't need a reactive mood unless you want to rest from problem-solving or get some rest from everyday things.
Social networks, TV, News, and other sources of information manipulate us, especially if we have bad daily habits. For instance, first thing in the morning, checking social networks, or turning on the TV with the morning news. It makes us reactive. Since, during sleep, we are resetting our brain after it structured all the memories for the past day. So, in the morning, we have a fresh head to start something cool that helps accomplish our goals and make dreams come true. But it's not wise to use your fresh head as a trash bin where you can put all that other people want you to know. Social media, TV, and other sources of information are cool inventions. But it can wait until you do something precious for yourself or your family.
According to statistics, 95% of people have no their own wishes and goals. But another 5% have their own wishes, goals, and make our world different.
The proactive mood switched your brain into a state when you decided what to do, and you do it. You don't wait for the tasks from an inbox; you don't ask others what you should do. You already know what you want, and you act.
Of course, we can do wrong things, but why it shouldn't be cool? It's your own experience, your training. We can be scared of a new thing or be brave after having different life experiences. We can think on a higher level. We can think outside of the box. That's where creativity starts.
We can trap in the dip or even huge dip. But we learn from it. We test out our desires and goals to move on or not.
You can say that I'm a crazy guy who sees all things in a positive light. But I had lots of bad experiences in my life. And I know for sure that those experiences taught me a lot and made me better than I was. Also, I know that I'll have many more barriers, but on another level and with greater prizes.
We can simplify this task with 100 wishes by thinking about several categories of wishes. For example, what we want to buy, what we want to achieve, what abilities and skills we want to get. Think about the future yourself in 1, 3, 5 years and decide who you want to be. What do you want to have in the future, and what do you want to be able to?
Close the door, turn on motivating or dreamy music. Create a specific atmosphere to complete this task. Use your sources of inspiration If you are stuck on something, as I mentioned at the beginning of this post.
I used my notes that I wrote before on lifestyle and previous several wishes that I still want to make come true. Also, you can open Youtube and watch inspiration videos for some time. For instance, to take a look at what unbelievable things other people do. But you need to ask yourself. Is this is your real wish too? Or it's just looking cool? It's essential. You should have all 100 desirable things. And it should be only your wishes.
I spent on this exercise only 1 hour, and it was worth it. I knew what to do this year. And now I know how to fill the gaps and fulfill my life this year and partly the next several years.
Have you done with wishes? Great! We shouldn't close the notebook or whatever place you wrote them in. We can use them and make sure that we accomplish what we really want.
I use boards for planning all my things in all the areas of life, such as career, money, fun, obligations, social worth, net worth, etc. I have mentioned this before, and I'll write a separate post with more details about this technique.
You can place your wishes in your inbox on the ToDo list, similar to what I did in Trello. I have an Income list for this year. And I place there all that I want to accomplish during the year. And after that, I can manage it by moving selected cards on the month, week and day.
Any way is fine. I know that different people like different approaches to planning. Some people didn't plan, but they are successful. Some people delegate this work to a private assistant. Whatever approach you choose to use, your list of 100 wishes will be good for you.
We can even don't use our wish list and write everything down, put it somewhere and try to find it in a year. You'll be amazed because at least 30% of things can be done.
Our brains work in a specific mode when we do things like this. I mean creating plans, writing down wish lists, dreaming, etc. That says that we can spend 1 hour and plant the right seeds in our heads. In a year or whatever term, we can observe changes in our life according to that list that we wrote some time ago.
The wishlist is not so important as the thoughts that you have when you write your wishes down. Your imagination works on a different level, and who knows, maybe it's linked somehow with your subconscious. Something magic happens during this process.
Some people don't believe in this exercise until they have results like what they wrote done some time ago on a list or any other medium.
I have my own results, like what I wrote down the first time I did this exercise. I didn't complete only things that weren't serious for me at that moment in time. In another case, something is not done because I didn't reach a specific level of thinking to accomplish it.
I believe that you can use this technique to make your dreams come true. By the way, if you are not a big dreamer, this exercise will extend your abilities in this area. Just try it, spend 1 hour, and you'll see new horizons in your life.